BDSM check-in
Safewords stay simple
GreenComfortable to continue
YellowSlow down and check in
RedStop immediately
A nonverbal stop signal is agreed too. Limits and aftercare are part of the plan, never an afterthought.
Sexual health
Honest, private, and without judgment
STI and HIV information is health information—not a measure of anyone’s character. Please use neutral words such as positive, negative, unknown, or not recently tested.
We can discuss testing, symptoms, known exposures, barriers, PrEP, contraception, allergies, and other relevant precautions before confirming.
Personal safety
Details first, surprises never
Everyone attending must be disclosed, verified as an adult, and approved in advance. Location, transportation, accessibility, and privacy needs are settled before travel.
Never arrive unannounced or bring an undisclosed guest.